Comments on: TheorenFleury Saved Me!

By: Christina

Christina — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:39:17 +0000

I’ve been a fan since 94 and I have to finally say something that is long over due. Thank you.
This being a public blog, I hesitate to talk in too much detail, but you and I have a lot in common. I am also a survivor of sexual abuse and you and your music has helped me to find strength. A recent event has brought up a lot of stuff I had thought long put behind me. I am one of those people who blocked things out, and I can tell you it’s no better. Things still catch up to you – sometimes with shocking suddenness.
“ACK!!! SHY! SHAME! FEAR! SUCK! WAH! HAND-WRINGING! ICKY FEELINGS! SAD! CRY! MAD! YUK” – IknowIknowIknow….

I love that you are always a positive influence in people’s lives even when yours is in turmoil. You are a very brave, strong, FIERCE woman and I admire that a lot.

I also admire that you are such an animal advocate! That fucking rocks! I am a Vet Tech and horse trainer and have been fighting for animals my whole life :)
Glad to know I’ve got such a strong ali.

Peace and Love :)

By: donnam13

donnam13 — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 02:20:11 +0000

i’m a firm believer that going through cancer changes your outlook on things even if you think it doesnt (and i thought it hadnt changed me). being an upbeat positive person that you are, a survivor, a person willing to give others benefit of the doubt… a go getter. all that was in you before the cancer. for many, this shows up ‘after’ it. so you might think that you’ve not changed, only become more so of what you already were (thats what i thought too).

however.. i think having cancer makes you face your own mortality (even if your cancer is ‘x’ percent survivable and you never feel that your life is in jepoardy). I think we still end up facing our mortality and it does change us. perhaps for you it has brought the hard to think about thoughts into the forefront so that you are forced to face them down and toss them off like you do with all the other nasties in your life. A way to cleanse the inside as in the same way the treatments are cleansing your insides… just thinking out loud here. For me – it was being able to say what i thought instead of trying to avoid hurting people’s feelings… stuffing anything down inside of us – even in the name of acceptance and positivity- isnt a good thing, me thinks.

kudos to you for facing things head on as always.

By: Donna

Donna — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:06:43 +0000

I am (being British) not familiar with Theoren Fleury at all, but I will now look him up, it’s always good to have inspirational figures….
Reading about you and your blogs fills me with the same feeling, one of wanting to get out there and play music and be healthy and go to the freakin’ gym!! Even if my friend isn’t coming with me…. hahaha!
Thankyou for being my muse. Don’t ever stop those scribblings!!!
Much Love
Donna x

By: Matt Richardson

Matt Richardson — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:39:35 +0000

Bif, You and Theo are NOTHING alike, I only have the utmost of respect for you, your music, and everything that you have accomplished in your short life this far… I get that Theo has inspired you to push yourself, which I think is good. Hopefully that means another album soon. I have literally worn out my first copy of the promise, but still have a second that is now getting serious play time in my big red truck, LOL! I have lived my whole life in Calgary Alberta, or Cochrane where they made ice cream. But I hate to disagree with you on anything, usually you said it as I was feeling it, or living it. Your second album LITERALLY saved my life when I was in darker times. That being said, I hope and know you will take this as it is meant, and not taken as random negativity. But I grew up watching the flames as a little boy, even though I was an Edmonton fan, and then a LA fan, and so on because of Gretzky. I went to see the Flames play at the dome so many times. Those are some of my fondest memories. But one Quote that Walter Gretzky said sticks with me every day, and I kinda live my life by it. ” It takes 30 years to make a name, but only 30 seconds to destroy it!” That being said now I can get into the nitty gritty of number 14, big bag O …
Religious views aside, I grew up watching Theo play the game he loved, for the team he loved, for the fans he loved, and as I said those were some good times. And when Theo went south to play for the Rangers it sucked to see such a talented guy go, but such is life. It really sucked to see Theo’s fall from grace, and so many of us held him so high on a pedestal that’s shadow would cover all of Calgarys down town core. Needless that was a huge distance to fall. Then Theo disappeared for some time, battling with demons is the shadows could not of been easy, or pleasurable. But he got clean, and found god, but I’m not going into religion. Then we see Theo on the Calgary Vipers Base ball team, I got a laugh, hell if Jordan could do it then why not? Time passes again, then my buddy James at the ONLY radio station in Calgary (X92.9) broke news that the good ol number 14 would be gracing the ice in practices, and was trying out to be a flame once more! My love for the game was back, more so than ever. I just thought to see Theo maybe on the same shift as Iggy, “Were my dreams coming true?” It was that same feeling I get when one of my favorite bands that has done nothing for years is putting out a new album out soon, but it is never soon enough! Now we all know that we all get slower with age, and Theo did not make the team. Tears came and left me over that one. Even if he did not make the team, he could of followed Bearcat’s steps and helped out the team with special teams, coaching, or what have you. To still be a part of the team he “loved”, for the fans he “loved”. It sucked that he had his head so far up where the sun don’t shine to see that… But now we get into the really negative Theo, I’m sure since you have read his blog, and linked us to his site. You have seen what he said about the team, city, and the fans that made Theo Fleury a household name all across this great country of Canada, and the hockey world too! I have rarely been so insulted! If I was a violent guy I would take his fake teeth and kick them so far up where the sun don’t shine they would be back in his mouth, buy I’m NOT a violent guy. I guess like Walter Gretzky said, and that blog proved it! I don’t look down on Theo for the drugs, nor the whole god fad thing, but seriously what was said is so much less than exceptable! That was the lowest thing said by “a used to be somebody ever”!
Now as I said I respect you, but if you lashed out at all of your fans, what would you expect us to do? And Theo’s apology was weak at best! And I’m in a VERY generous mood.
I know Theo had it rough, and there was many unacceptable things done to him in the past, that I bet keep him up at night still. But we all have out baggage, and skeletons in his closet. But that does not excuse his actions! Maybe in thirty years, the Fleury name will be worth something again, but for now like I have said here and there. The Only place the number 14 should be hung at the dome is printed on the toilet paper.
I appreciate that his story has inspired you to fight harder, I get that. But sadly that inspiration is form such a horrible source. Like someone abusing animals, would inspire most people to stand up for those who can’t speak. In closing YOU would Never lash out at your fans, nor take us for granted!You embody integrity, Theo may of in the past, but not anymore, he needs to rebuild the Theo “Brand” and that WILL take some years to undo what he has said and done!
I hope you still keep doing what you do, I hope to see you rocking out soon, and is your new album out yet? Just kidding, I know I will have to wait for it like everybody eltse.
Love ya, Matt.

By: vanessa

vanessa — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:49:48 +0000

I heard a bit about Flurries story. I hope to read his book some day. Its not often that a male athlete tells a personal story with such dignity and courageous honesty. He is inspiring. Probably because his work not only reinforces his own strength, but is able to affect the lives of many. Which will help many young men or women to speak their truths if in a similar situation. What integrity. Very brave indeed. And, it sounds as a warning for would be sexually abusive men, or women. Pervesions have to be dealt with. Like any illness a sexually disturbed mind needs professional help. If a person is unable to see that, than there is a serious problem indeed. While I am not usually for the prision system, sometimes it may be the right place to send someone. With re-offences perhaps throwing away the key would work. If anyone should feel shame, its the offender. Enough said.=======