28
Sep
My Husband, The Champ…
Namaste, Salaam, Bonjour, NeeHoMah, and Yo!’Sup! To all of you. Thank you, as ever, for reading my oft-idiotic ramblings and musings. I deeply appreciate you and wish you Highest Blessings and Light.
Om Nama Shivaya.
I wanted to dedicate my writing, here, today- to the Strange Concept of Marriage.
it is strange because I waffle between thinking it is simply “religious” or “cultural” tradition…..or perhaps it is simply “society” norms/belonging?
Either way…….I did it. TWO YEARS AGO TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Two fuckin years. Wow.
Poor bastard.
Walker. Ian Walker, to be specific.
Yes, Friends. Walker really couldn’t have predicted what he was in for. Poor kid. A good, good kid. Hockey kid. Minister parents. East Coast Universities. Popular, GoodKidSportwriter.
Looked good on paper for him: PositivityGirl who happens to Believe in The Good of EveryBody, dogmommy, Straight-edge yogini vegan fit-girl, also a touring rockergrrl, tattooed, fit, credible and with an ambition for Everyone’s Happiness. Why the fuck not?
Right?
Welll, Ladies and Gentlemen, that Good Egg, Walker, got more than he bargained for.
We had dated only a short time before we got hitched. Plus, I was travelling/working almost RIGHT up until the wedding (I think I got home four days before?) And then we split on our honeymoon (which was the FIRST time the kid+i had spent 24hrs in a row, for more than a week, together.)
Then, we returned home to my cancer diagnosis.
That was, the Coles Notes version, of the chain-of-events.
Poor bastard. He never knew what hit him. It was just “life”.
Needless to say, the learning curve has been rather unusual. Crash course in Marriage stuff. Learning each other’s “coping mechanisms” as we went,
Walker……..ya manned up. And, here we are, still navigating “marriage”, still trying to figure it out, blindly stumbling along……but ever moving foreward.
I was in cancer treatment THE ENTIRE FIRST YEAR+A HALF of our marriage.
Lucky you.
And, still in treatment-of-sorts, and now on tour, and you being so busy with your writing……I just wanted to take this unique opportunity to tell you that I’m pretty impressed.
Nice stick-handling, kid.
You’re really becoming this league’s leading scorer.
Love and Bliss to everyone,
And to Walker: Congratulations on surviving the First Two Years of your Marriage.
Om Nama Shivaya.
Biffy
Xoxo
September 28th, 2009 at 3:18 PM
Happy Anniversary!!
September 28th, 2009 at 3:19 PM
Happy Anniversary Bif!!
Despite all the hardships life has thrown at you guys, you’ve made it. I’ve heard the first few years of marriage are the hardest.
Your love is inspirational!
September 28th, 2009 at 3:20 PM
congrats on two years to the both of you!
September 28th, 2009 at 3:31 PM
Congrats on the 2 Years Bif
September 28th, 2009 at 3:32 PM
That’s Beautiful!
Congratulates, and I tip my hat and raise a drink to having many more happy years ahead.
Love, Luck and Harmony for you both.
September 28th, 2009 at 3:38 PM
Happy two years!!
September 28th, 2009 at 3:47 PM
Congratulations to you both, happy anniversary! Im heading for 2 years, too. Nothing like being married to your best friend and very own “champion”…its awesome. <3
September 28th, 2009 at 4:07 PM
Wow 2 years already! You guys ROCK! Happy Anniversary!
September 28th, 2009 at 5:22 PM
personally im a bit jaded on the entire concept of marriage. however …
i am thrilled for you and walker. you have been thru a lot together. being married to a gorgeous talented touring rock chick requires a lot of understanding plus all the curves that were thrown your way. that requires mental, emotional and physical stamina…
you are both right on.
Congratulations to both of you.
Happy second anniversary.
September 28th, 2009 at 5:47 PM
Aww that’s sweet :). xoxox
My b/f has stuck with me for 15+ years!! And everyone too said it was an odd pairing; he of the “metal rock” variety; and me; dirty punk-rock grrl ;). We still totally disagree on music! haha but he also was my rock during my stupid-cancer treatments and somehow he’s also come to love my Jack Russells and my Volkswagens! ;-)
Happy Anniversary and here’s to many more :).
September 28th, 2009 at 6:19 PM
If you’ve survived this two years, you two can survive anything! Blessings to you both and brightest blessings to your marriage. :)
September 28th, 2009 at 6:46 PM
Congratulations!! We had our 2 year anniversary in May, and I don’t know where the hell that time went!
P.S – I totally saw you in Edmonton the other day! Should have said hi, but I didn’t :(
September 28th, 2009 at 7:08 PM
I have been married for two months & now am being deployed. It’s not as bad as you went through but our song is Nothing else matters & your Hold on. So Congrats on holding on to each other. Love is a choice & you will love each other as long as you coose to & wake up every day thinking “What can I do today to make my partner’s life better?”
September 28th, 2009 at 7:16 PM
Happy anniversary you guys! That is so awesome! You know he’s the one when he’s done so well so far, right? LOL :) Blessings and bliss upon your marriage! You guys work so hard you deserve each other :D
September 29th, 2009 at 5:31 AM
socially, culturally, not many are devotteed to another, never mind marriage in the way of committment to social ideals or making it work for the sake of others, adding to the agregore of happiness, ect. i write, now and again, on this blog, but i did not attend your guy’es wedding. but the photos made it look as though it was a very joyful event. much joy and success on your journey together! love is a controversial and mysterious topic. marriage more so. enough said…with love, and good wishings, v.
September 29th, 2009 at 5:49 AM
Bif, congrats on 2 years.
You two have been through a tough two years, and this leaves no doubt that you two can survive anything.
September 29th, 2009 at 5:52 AM
That’s very sweet, Bif. And congratulations to both of you! :) Through thick and thin, you guys are surviving, and that’s what counts.
September 29th, 2009 at 3:58 PM
never been married….best to you 2!
September 30th, 2009 at 12:02 PM
i wish u 2 the best :)
October 4th, 2009 at 5:38 PM
Better late than never! Congrats! (and your anniversary is my son’s birthday! <3)
October 9th, 2009 at 3:47 PM
mr b and i were married sept. 14, 1991. he got more than he bargained for too – pacemaker at 31 for no apparent reason, open heart surgery three years later for fuck up with pacemaker, then cancer diagnosis just before your diagnosis actually. he’s had a time all right. but i got more than i bargained for too! his two boys spent the night with us on our honeymoon as mom skipped town and didnt tell us :p then they moved in a few months later.. left home at the appropriate ages but me the ‘not gonna have kids’ lady had kids.. so it all works out to balance out. your turn is coming ;))
congrats to you and walker. i follow him on twitter too – gonna give hiim shit he didnt say nothing about it pfftt.
November 13th, 2009 at 3:05 PM
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December 12th, 2009 at 1:45 PM
I am in awe of your strength, positive attitude and gratefulness. Congratulations on your anniversary and may this world bring you and yours all the happiness and joys you so rightly deserve. You rock this world, and it is blessed to have you in it :).